Thank you Clare very much, for sharing your experience. What you expressed in your healing process is what i'm experiencing. That things resurface. The root is not yet removed.
Yet, I'm seeing things a bit differently today, that is till this surface again. Like, this experience in part, is what started me searching. Searching for what Jesus meant when He said to Love one another as I have Loved you. What does it mean to love one another unconditionally. How did this experience fit in with Jesus saying to look at the plank in my own eye before the splinter in my neighbors.
I loved what you said about that when the time came to forgive you realized that no forgiveness was necessary. It rather fits in with what my searching has been asking. I just bought Thomas Merton's book on Peace.
quote:Originally posted by Clare: cut... For me, eventually, it was far more important to feel the emotions as they arose in my body, time after time, after time, after time, be with them, and discharge them. Not to rush to forgive until there was no more charge within me around the need to connect with the various wounds. And that took time.
But then more importantly when it came to forgiveness, I discovered that this was not needed at all, because there didnít seem to be anything or anyone to forgive, as there was now no sense of being sinned against.
My identity was that which was hurt, in the first place, and I now I no longer lived out of that identity.