The Two Ways to Grow
- by Philip St. Romain; all rights reserved
A person is an embodied soul, endowed with intelligence, memory and will. A person is a creature with needs whose fulfillment leads the person into deeper and deeper realizations of what it means to be human. The manner in which we meet our needs, however, determines what kind of person we become.
Basic Human Needs
A. Bodily
1. Proper nutrition
2. Proper exercise
3. Sleep
4. Shelter/clothing
5. Medical care when sick
B. Psycho-spiritual
6. Play/fun/humor
7. Honest, caring relationships
8. Sense of choice, freedom
9. Sense of purpose, meaning
10. Intellectual stimulation
11. Aesthetic stimulation
12. Prayer
13. Creative Expression
True Self Context for Meeting Needs
Living in recognition of one's dependence on God. Dissociating from False Self concerns, and living here/now-in/love. Soul not distorted/constricted, but open and growing.
A. Context for meeting needs.
1. Humility/honesty
2. Trust in God.
3. Awareness
4. Purity of heart
5. Justice
6. Mercy/compassion
B. Supported by:
1. Christ victorious
2. Church/sacraments
3. Spiritual Direction
4. Spiritual reading
5. Prayer
False Self Context for Meeting Needs
System of consciousness and context for meeting needs in response to inner feelings of fear, shame and resentment. False self needs provide over-arching context for meeting basic needs.
A. False Self Needs
1. Approval/appreciation
2. Power/control/ambition
3. Recognition/statusBeing special
4. Perpetuating or defending a "fixed identity" defined in terms of role, label, identification, self-judgment.
B. Supported by:
1. World system of dysfunctional rules for "being OK."
2. The devil. Satan.
3. One's own unhealthy conditioning.